Perfect or excellent
Do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself in fear of making a mistake? And when you make a mistake, do you automatically condemn yourself? Dealing with your mistakes isn’t easy, one thing is to push yourself to be excellent and another entirely different thing is to live a life of perfectionism. This behavior is not healthy because it can disrupt the productivity and self-esteem of a woman.
According to research that was conducted and published in the Canadian Journal of Behavioural Science, perfectionism impedes a person from moving forward. During this research, 10 thousand professors had their professional habits analyzed. The perfectionists had many traits in common, how to establish and an ideal of perfection and to worry about tiny details when trying to achieve it, dedicating a lot of time on one task, checking and rechecking the completed task, and reacting in an exaggerated manner about the mistakes that they made.
According to researchers, wasting a larger amount of time than necessary on tasks can cause tardiness, failure to comply with deadlines and even frustration. The possibility to make mistakes suppresses actions and even limits the development of a person. Many end up running away from new challenges because they feel incapable of accomplishing them.
To achieve the level of beauty portrayed in the media, to be the perfect mother for your children, or to please everyone in fear of being rejected, are some of the anxieties that women suffer when they have the habit of being perfect. She charges a lot from herself, opening space for insecurities and dissatisfaction, and this way of dealing with mistakes and fixing them destroys the self-esteem and self-confidence. She starts comparing her performance with that of other women and loses her individuality. Another consequence is becoming a perfectionist towards others.
It is important to understand that everyone has their own style and, therefore, the disagreements and differences occur. This way of thinking makes us less demanding and frees us from the need of wanting to be perfect in front of others. “Not that we must be benevolent to our mistakes, but we must understand that along the way we will commit failures by the mere fact of not being perfect. Sometimes, we make an unnecessary comment, we take an action that we later regret, we speak rudely. There are so many things in which we can make mistakes, but the important thing is to watch as not to repeat the same mistakes and improve,” says the author Tania Rubim on her blog. We are flawed. However, the desire to improve and do something well-done should not be excluded.
What is to be excellent?
Many believe that excellence and perfectionism are the same things. In fact, they are the opposite of each other. Excellence is a healthy quality and does not cause any damage. It is connected to the effort of a person to improve and not an obsession to be perfect. To be excellent is to improve everyday attitudes and have security when dealing with your mistakes, transforming them into lessons.
To achieve this virtue, the main step is for a woman to seek guidance from the true source, which is the Word of God, and strive to change what we know that blocks us. “You want to improve every day, without that presumption that one day we will be perfect, something that is only possible when we meet with our God.”